Thank you to those who gave me their advice both here, on FB, and via text. I got some good advice and will definitely try what y'all suggested!
After mulling things over, I decided to take the shoes away and take away the iPad & sweets for a week. I did still go to the concert at the fair - for multiple reasons. #1 - I paid $30 for my ticket and feel like mom needed some fun. #2 - Madi stayed the night at her gma's. Gma can punish better than me ;) and I filled her in on Madi's restrictions. #3 - I felt like the above was enough.
Some may think children should always, no matter what behave 100%. I disagree. I wrote the post last night when I was still very much upset by the nights events. Although I do not think being tired, dealing with stresses of her parents divorcing, or changes of routine are an excuse, I do think they should be considered.
I guess this post is somewhat justifying my decision. I don't want to do that. I feel good with my decision! I really am going to try y'alls suggestions to get M to fall asleep on her own. I will let y'all know how it turns out!
I'll post a concert/fair recap eventually. It was a blast!